It’s been a rough couple of weeks for me and I’ve not felt like posting to my blog. I had a death in my family, the result of which continued a recurring theme that’s been in my life for the last few years. With all shifts and transitions there comes a grieving process that seems strange, sad and beautiful all at once. The sadness is there, most definitely, but I’ve come to understand how we are each given an opportunity to make our way in the world and nothing can stand in our way unless we let it.
My little kitty, Susie, showed me the truth of that realization every day. She began her life from a very unpleasant state. She was a scrappy, savvy little girl and with each moment, she made her way in the world. She never let anything stand in her way when she wanted something. She took her opportunities as they came and survived numerous threats to her existence. She thrived on this planet for nearly 16 years until her little body had had enough. She knew it was time for her to leave and accepted it.
I learned so much from Susie, especially in these last few years. I’ve had a succession of setbacks; times where I wanted to throw in the towel, but I stayed true to my path because Susie taught me that it’s all just a story we tell ourselves. We project silly scenarios into the future about how awful it will be and that creates more of the same. Even when her body wouldn’t let her walk on the counter anymore, even as she slipped and fell off, she got up and kept going.
I know it sounds crazy but I feel like my life has been a mirror of the car business these last few years too. Having spent my entire life at dealerships, I can’t help but notice the similarities of shifting, loss, transition and eventual renewal. The old mindset just doesn’t work anymore. I find that when my mind starts talking at me about how nice it would be to revert back to the old ways, I catch myself now because I know the only way is forward. I ask myself, “What would make me feel better?” and intuitively I know the answer.
With the car business, the question could be, “What can we do to thrive?” because moving onward away from the status quo is the only way out. I really hope my peeps at dealerships can grasp this because NONE of it is bad. New ideas and ways to connect authentically with the customer are so wonderful and when it’s done right, the relationships last forever.
Transitions and change are always uncomfortable and scary. But Susie and I are proof that happiness and success are inevitable. Through every failure and downturn, there is a reason and a promise that things will turn in your favor. If we can just move past our comfort level and take the risk, the rewards are pretty damn good.